The fact that Mark is due to catch a flight on Thursday of this week to get over here, via Heathrow (which was closed until this morning), also leaves me worried and praying for no more snow in that part of London so that the airport has time to get back up and running before his flight. Though the BBC predict no more snow there before Friday, it could change at any time, as demonstrated by the predictions of last night's weather forecast verses the ones of this morning. Needless to say, I've become a bit obsessed with refreshing the BBC weather page to make sure nothing has changed in the last five minutes.
Of course, as usual, my title relates to more than just the physical weather conditions. Sometimes I think that emotional weather is far more destructive. Think about it; one bad storm and you could be falling apart, your whole life as you know it. Tornadoes of arguments bringing your world back to foundations. But what if you are solely to blame for it. I know in most cases, blame is shared, arguments almost always take two stubborn people to blow up, it's very hard to argue with someone who's submitting to you.
Relationships should be built on trust and honesty; we hear it everywhere, every television show, every magazine, every relationship advice column everywhere. But how do we define dishonesty? Is it just lying? Or would we label keeping something from them intentionally?
Since I got my Sex and the City dvd I've picked up on several things to do with this topic; Carrie, the main character, has a serious relationship which ends destructively, and then finds a lovely new boyfriend. While out with said new boyfriend, she runs into her ex, but doesn't introduce them, she pretends that she just knows the ex as a far off friend. He's married now anyway. But later she ends up sleeping with her ex. Still she keeps this from her new and lovely boyfriend.
Now the question I ask you: is the only wrongdoing she does sleeping with her ex and keeping it from her new boyfriend? Or is she also wrong to avoid introducing him as her ex? Is that also considered dishonest? I mean the past is past right? And would it have made a difference if she hadn't preceded to sleep with him?
If you gain contact with an ex who you'd previously left behind, should you let your current boyfriend know? I mean, is it even any of their business? Well, I guess that depends on your individual relationship really. But if they don't ask, are you obliged to tell them at all? Personally I'd say yes, simply because I would want to be kept in the loop in my own relationship, if only to keep an eye on the situation. By being closer I'd like to think it would be easier to see how to get past it if it did go too far.
Besides, what kind of mindset does it take to look elsewhere when you shouldn't? I mean, I have been guilty of it in the past, but now that I've found something I've been looking for, for what feels like forever, I would say the idea of doing so again revolts me. But what if it's "the one that got away" that extra special person. And then, if they are that person, do you know they'll be good for you? Especially if it was destructive last time. You're so compatible! Well I guess, but have you been in an adult relationship? How do you know it'll work if you haven't? How do you know that all those things you adore about them now aren't hiding those flaws that you just can't live with?
And if you are going to go and do this. If your heart just won't be quietened. Why are you still with your current boyfriend? Is it because you want something to fall back on? And if you answered yes to that, that's pretty damn selfish.
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