Innermost Feelings

Something happened last night that I have been encouraging for a long time, Hayley finally let Ash read her blog. There is a reason I have been waiting for this to happen; the communication between the two of them suffers from the heavy baggage that Hayley carries, and the reading her blog gives Ash the opportunity to discover what bothers her in an indirect way, but in a way that he can directly act on and, assuming he takes the words on those pages and does something about them (say opening a conversation about it to chat through it with her) it could benefit their relationship greatly.

Of course, there is also a censorship issue that goes hand in hand with letting your other half read your blog; if there's something you don't want them to read/know about, you're more likely to leave it out. After all, your blog posts are what you make them. Mine, as you may have noticed, rarely enter the emotional zone of my life, simply because anyone could be reading. I tend to keep them more about what my mind is exploring. In short, one could describe mine as: mind over heart. 

The other side of this is that, if the posts are taken the wrong way, the reading of an emotional blog post could become destructive. In the heat of your anger you write something not-so-flattering about that special person and they take offence. In all honesty, it's probably not the best idea to write them in an angry state of mind, but you did... and it's also probably not going to be what you wrote that bothers your partner, it's going to be the fact that you put it out there for the world to see, I mean who knows who comes across your blog?

Destruction of relationships via blog posts is quite unlikely, especially if your other half goes into reading the posts in the right mindset. But if they don't and they read something they don't like what will they do? I mean, they have no power to change the post, all they can do is rage at you, and if they do that are they breaching your freedom? Maybe. But if the post is about them then perhaps they do have a leg to stand on, even if it's a very skinny one. Think about it though, it would be pretty petty of them not to try and sort those issues you mentioned out before ditching you. 

Blogs can be a great way to see the keyhole view into someone's life and thoughts. But, like a diary, they are very open to keeping the secret secret and bringing the past into the present. Sometimes they are reliable, and sometimes they are a load of drivel, and sometimes it's hard to tell the difference.